Infidelity and Dealing with Reasonable, Emotional and Wise Mind States

The emotions felt by the hurt partner immediately after finding out about an affair are simply overwhelming There are emotional stages of processing an affair and they similar to those dealing with death of a loved one. You have lost something you cherished and even if the relationship is saved it will never be the same. The difference in death and infidelity is when a person died they did not choose to leave you but in the case of infidelity they did choose to leave you. Accepting you were second Read more [...]

Life is a Puzzle and My Ex was not my Soul Mate

  Forrest Gump said “life is like a box of chocolates” but I prefer to agree with SQuire Rushnell that life is like a big jigsaw puzzle. All the pieces have their place, and every single one is important in our life for some reason. I am one piece in the puzzle; there are pieces that connect to mine, one of which is a soul mate. As with any puzzle when you have the correct piece they fall in place very quickly, and there is no need to try to make them fit.   The puzzle is God’s Read more [...]

Answers to my Question “What is a Soul Mate?”

  “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and make you look deep inside.”     Your life is a puzzle and a soul mate is the piece to the puzzle that make Read more [...]

God Winks and Hummingbirds

A divorce can rip you down to your core, many like me go through a period of time thinking "Who am I now!"  It becomes a time where you question everything from who you can trust to what you believe in. I am no different from anyone else, and I could not understand why this was happening to me and my family. Luckily for me I have a very dear friend that is also a woman of faith. Little did I know, at first Emily had struggled with if she could really help me through the divorce. She is happily Read more [...]

Don’t Get Stuck Being Adversaries After Your Divorce

  I processed through my divorce while I was getting the divorce. It was a time for growing, understanding and accepting what was happening to me and my family. You must be able to view your situation from a positive perspective. I kept trying to find the silver lining. I know God has a plan, and I need to be open to follow his plan. I started watching for “God Winks” and let them guide me. This also helped me become more positive and not feel so alone. Set out on a path to healing and growth Read more [...]