Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community

  I posted my Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community before, but learned the link did not work.  As such I got a copy of the mp3 from the organization that hosted the talk and I up loaded directly to the site and undated the post. This is a recording of a talk I was asked to give to an international audience for Better than Ever After Divorce.  Dee Adio-Moses asked me to talk on the topic after interviewing me about my book on her radio show.  Some of the topics Read more [...]

Two’s Company, Three’s a Crowd: Avoiding Triangulation in Your Future Relationships

  Abusive relationships leave our self-esteem debilitated. People who have experienced abuse in their previous relationships have become paralyzed with fear-- fear of not being able to love again, fear of not being loved again and that fear of experiencing failure in their future relationships. You may currently be healing from abuse, and you think that it may still be too early to enter into a new relationship, and you are right. However, there is nothing too early about learning and understanding Read more [...]

Two Wild Dogs Fighting and Title of My Books…

      People often ask me where the titles of the three "Dogs" books comes from, and I tell them that a few weeks after I was served with papers by the sheriff, a close friend of mine, someone who had gone through his own train-wreck of a divorce, handed me this story, and It became a guiding light for me, even after the divorce times were behind me. "The old Indian chief was teaching wisdom to his young grandson as they sat together on the mesa beneath the starry night sky. He explained Read more [...]

“ The Subtotal Of All I Am ”

    Multiply And divide me Gracefully subtract what’s still inside me Not before you add it up Even though you’ve had enough The subtotal of all I am Is equal to what you’ve become So equate this to true love and Multiply the sum           Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out  these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Few Poems From Words I Found In Divorced Spiritchilism By Definition This Has Everything To Do Read more [...]

Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

“I Stood Next To A Mountain”

      I stood Next to a mountain Stared up at its peak It did not Grant me solace Neither did it speak It seemed to look down on me From another place in time In that incarnation I Couldn’t find the will to climb As if noble heights remembered Nearly every thing I should That day a mountain moved me…   …Standing next to where I stood   Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out  these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Few Read more [...]

“Hold Me Up”

                   “Hold Me Up”   The grief is Heavy, but in the heaviness Every heart can be uplifted   Hope’s motif is then Embedded in A byproduct Love re-gifted I need you to hold me up Never let me down when I’m deep into it Give me the strength to go through it   Properly, I have to put this grief behind me Remove it from me finally Over time & under the watchful eye Clouded by Emotions that Read more [...]

The Schematic

    Birth, life – life & death End all – begin again God first – last breath In & out – back in and then Nightmare – daydream Sinner saved – salvation, sin…   …Small price – grand scheme   Who, what, where, how, why & when?   "The Schematic"   Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out  these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Few Poems From Words I Found In Divorced Spiritchilism By Definition This Read more [...]

“I Wish You A Lifetime Of Love”

        Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out  these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Few Poems From Words I Found In Divorced Spiritchilism By Definition This Has Everything To Do With My Life For more information check out  www.tonyhaynes.webs.com,  Wikipedia – Tony Haynes  and  All Media Artists.com - Tony Haynes  (the bottom of this page has links to 86 of my songs on YouTube… hope you enjoy!) — Tony   Amazon.com Read more [...]

“What If I Should lose It? (The Breakdown Part I)”

                  What if I should lose it? I mean lose it way off track Let myself be led astray by Leaps of faith in cognac   Plus Or minus - choose it Will you cut a friend some slack? Evangelize my change of heart Rope my hope and bring me back?   Grace my life with music Orchestrate my faltered flack Nourish me with something other than a smoke or six-pack Ego won’t refuse it – if I’m quickened by a light snack…   …What Read more [...]