Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Why do Some Married People Find it Acceptable to Poke “Fun” at Their Partners in Public?

  Please read my Editors Note at the end of this article.       Why do Some Married Women Find it Acceptable to Poke Fun at Their Husbands in Public? By Gint  Aras   I noticed that several married women I know on Facebook posted this joke on their timelines in recent days: Woman’s Ass Size Study There is a new study about women and how they feel about their asses. The results are very interesting. 10% of women think their ass is too skinny 30% of women think Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 4 – Discovering Your Lost Self: Bye Bye Co-Dependency!

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   A lot of people stay in abusive relationships because of the fear of being alone or not being loved by other people. They will say for the longest time that they want out, but they end up not leaving. There are some people who do leave, but they tend to repeat the same self-destructive attitude in their new relationship. Co-dependency Read more [...]

Diary of Abuse October 2000

    He’s been nice while his mom has been here. He helps cook and clean. He still won’t let me take the car myself, he drives me to and from work. There has been no yelling for a few days, its so nice. As I was coming out of work tonight one of the guys threw a cup out the window and hit me with it just joking around. I started laughing at him and got in the car. I knew as soon as I saw Roger’s face I had just messed up. He started yelling at me and asking me how long I had been Read more [...]

Avoid the Sociopathic Games

  Sociopaths are predators that love hurting other people. They are hard to identify, and victims are surprised to find themselves in abusive relationships. Victims of sociopathic games should ask for help in order to leave the abuser behind and bring normalcy to their lives. Staying in abusive relationships could result in damage of their physical and psychological health.   Sociopaths don’t have consciences. For them, everything’s a game. They don’t feel any remorse or guilt Read more [...]

Things You Should Know about Hoovers and Hoovering

  Hoovers and Hoovering are terms that came from the popular vacuum cleaner brand. Hoovering is the behavior common among abusers that is seen when the victim threatens to get out, or actually gets out of an abusive relationship. The abuser will suck the victim back into the relationship by playing with one’s weaknesses. It can be done by giving the victim gifts, promises, acts of affection, and compliments.   Hoovers and Hoovering have been made possible because of the fear of being Read more [...]

Life after Abuse: Talk Yourself Out of Verbal Abuse

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   “The language we use to communicate with one another is like a knife. In the hands of a careful and skilled surgeon, a knife can work to do great good. But in the hands of a careless or ignorant person, a knife can cause great harm.”   This quote, which is written by an anonymous author, best sums up what Read more [...]

Basics About Abuse Part 3 – Stop the Abuse by Breaking the Cycle of Violence

Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   Victims of domestic abuse may have different stories to tell, came from different backgrounds and belong to different classes in society. However, regardless of the race, economic status or culture they may have; victims of domestic violence share a common pattern of abuse that was present in their relationship. This pattern Read more [...]

Amy11 Part Two “My Life as a Child”

      Amy11 Part Two "My Life as a Child" •           Continuation....while growing up I was very average girl running around the butterflies dancing laughing all was part of life. Father was in army so we had not faced poverty much. Our family had fridge, TV, and other things at home but parents were so cruel. I had to do whole household chores started at age of 7 yrs. helping mother to do dishes, wash clothes with hand even when I could not hold detergent bar in Read more [...]