Should Former Lovers, Become Friends? Or let it go?

As I work with clients who struggle in new relationships, a major block for many of them is their unwillingness to be friends with past lovers. Watch how resentments from the past, hurt us in love today.       Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own Read more [...]

Recommendation for Grieving During your Healing Process

    Allow yourself to grieve for the loss of the relationship.  It is a death of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled and in many cases the person at one time was your best friend. Despair is a natural reaction to loss, and the break up or divorce of a love relationship involves several losses: The loss of someone to share your life with and have companionship and shared encounters. The loss of someone to help, be it financial, intellectual, social, or emotional  The loss Read more [...]

Your Ex is History Don’t Bring Them on Your Date!

  Your Ex is history so don’t bring them on your date! Regardless of how much effort we may make toward leaving our past in our past, we are haunted because of it. We have been troubled by an affair our ex had, or we have been frightened of the raised voice that accompanied a meltdown that lead to physical or verbal abuse. Without realizing it, many individuals develop an inclination to hightail it away from people who even just in the slightest way remind them of their ex-spouse. This Read more [...]

Life is a Puzzle and My Ex was not my Soul Mate

  Forrest Gump said “life is like a box of chocolates” but I prefer to agree with SQuire Rushnell that life is like a big jigsaw puzzle. All the pieces have their place, and every single one is important in our life for some reason. I am one piece in the puzzle; there are pieces that connect to mine, one of which is a soul mate. As with any puzzle when you have the correct piece they fall in place very quickly, and there is no need to try to make them fit.   The puzzle is God’s Read more [...]

A Relationship With an Abusers?

  If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you may be/have been in a relationship with an abuser.   •Are you now or have you ever been in a relationship with someone who abuses you emotionally? •Are you always walking on eggshells around your partner, worried that anything you say or do could incite their anger and rage? •Does your partner criticize everything you do or say? •Does your partner try to isolate you from your family and friends? •Does your partner make Read more [...]

42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Twenty One | Sam

    42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Twenty One | Sam   Warning some episodes have strong language!         Published on Feb 2, 2013 WritersImprovStudio What happens when 'our home' becomes 'my home,' when 'our child' becomes 'my child,' when 'we' goes back to being 'you OR I'? Rarely the decision is mutual, and the one who did not make it, feels angry. 'You broke up our family, now live with the consequences,' argues Tomas. 'You can't have everything!' 4 Read more [...]

“For Every Breakdown, There’s A Breakthrough”

      “For Every Breakdown, There’s A Breakthrough” For every breakdown there’s a breakthrough Over to the sunny side Life will take down – but Love will take you On to pastures green & wide With every breakdown there’s a breakthrough God provides   Growth lays its stake down and remakes you On the milk & honey side Does its shakedown – won’t forsake you So growth is never satisfied   For every breakdown there’s a breakthrough On Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #31

Inspirational Quotes 'You can never make the same mistake twice… Because the second time you make it, it’s a choice…" - Steven Denn "The prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets. The prettiest eyes have cried the most tears and the kindest hearts have felt the most pain." - Unknown “You will not get what you DESERVE if you’re still holding onto the things you’re supposed to let go of.” – PowerPlug! "It’s easy to stand with the crowd. It takes COURAGE to stand alone." - Mahatma Read more [...]

Deciding to Date … Again

            Deciding to date after a divorce can be a daunting task.  Although once you  hit a certain age it seems like every person you meet has been divorced at least once, many people bring with them various types of baggage into new relationships.  That can be a lot to carry around in a relationship. If you date before you've dealt with your own baggage then it's likely you'll attract people who are in similar places in life.  That is to say, maybe Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Affairs, Control Issues and More”

    Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Affairs, Control Issues and More” Originally aired August 22, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Single Again! Now What? returns with our 29th episode. Joanie had a business assignment from her “real” work, so Lesley and Steve are handling court on a variety of subjects. Sleep deprived Lesley, sucks it up and puts a smile on her face for our loyal audiences and discusses Read more [...]