I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar? (I Need a Man!)

    by Gretchen Schiller   I am woman, hear me roar… “I NEED A MAN!” No shit, right? I was just as horrified as you were when that echoed through my mind. But it did. So here I am throwing it out there in case you Pretty Mamas have felt the same on occasion. In Helen Reddy’s infamous song, “I Am Woman,” we can all agree that the context of her lyrics preached the opposite; women do not need men.       Here’s the deal. I’m tired of the conviction, Read more [...]

Two Wild Dogs Fighting and Title of My Books…

      People often ask me where the titles of the three "Dogs" books comes from, and I tell them that a few weeks after I was served with papers by the sheriff, a close friend of mine, someone who had gone through his own train-wreck of a divorce, handed me this story, and It became a guiding light for me, even after the divorce times were behind me. "The old Indian chief was teaching wisdom to his young grandson as they sat together on the mesa beneath the starry night sky. He explained Read more [...]

Read Quietly “The Value” then Share with Someone

To realize The value of a sister/brother Ask   someone Who doesn't have one. To realize The value of ten   years: Ask a newly Divorced couple. To realize The value of   four years: Ask a graduate. To realize The value of one   year: Ask a student who Has failed a final exam. To   realize The value of nine months: Ask a mother who gave birth to a   stillborn. To realize The value of one month: Ask a mother Who   has given birth to A premature baby. To realize The value of one   Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Luck, Superstition or God?

  And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus. (NLT) ( Philippians 4:19 ) Do you look towards luck or superstition to have an impact on your circumstances?  Don't you want more than a random chance of good fortune?  God has a purpose in our lives and everything happens for a reason.  It's always to draw your heart closer to Him.  Work on uncrossing your fingers and instead say a prayer.  There's Read more [...]

The King of the Mountain

    “Only mediocrity is safe. Therefore, be the best, and get prepared to be attacked.” ~Paulo Coelho   Despair permeated his teenage body, and his spirit. I could feel and smell his dejection as we sat inches apart in the front seat of The Red Scorpion after driving home from his Scout meeting that night. I partially understood the abyss he was teetering on, but I doubted the ability of any words of mine to relieve him. I just hoped that he would eventually understand Read more [...]

A Stranger is a Future Friend that I haven’t Learned Their Name Yet!

  I am happy that in my life and here is an example why. The woman I viewed as my “best friend” for over three decades told her cousin I had gotten divorced and gave him my number. I lived on one side of the country, and he lived on the other. We texted, emailed, and talked on the phone for about three months. I asked him if he was involved with anyone and he always reassured me that there was no one in his life. He then asked me to come and visit him since I had not been anywhere in Read more [...]

Sex After Divorce (for Mature Audiences Only)

    ...Over the years, one day at a time, the role for each partner in a bed evolves. Slowly what each needs from the other may not even be the simple animal coupling. It becomes about control and power, giving and taking, bartering and trading. About giving in or holding out. About comfort and belonging. If one gave it, then the other would get up with any sick child that night, and let the other sleep in the next morning. If the other gave it, the first would tell a little secret Read more [...]

Night Magic Walks and A Date That Showed Me I Can

    Dark nights hold a magical attraction. Dark winter nights, especially. Primeval powers swirling around me, luring me, drawing me into their grasp, removing the scales from my eyes to reveal the inner vortexes of the night universe, of my connections with the divine. Smelling the brine of the ocean in Long Island Sound at low tide, the aromas were even more sweet in the blackened panorama when competing visual inputs are absent. And sounds! Oh My Dear Sweet God, what sounds I hear Read more [...]

Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]