Moving On From Divorce

  The  moment has  happened: you and your spouse are divorced. It can be easy to ask yourself "what did I do wrong", but that kind of thinking hinders the process of coping with divorce depression. This time in your life is one of the most stressful events to ever occur in anyone's life, and there's no need to add to it with self-doubt and blaming. Without moving on from divorce, you can suffer from chronic health problems, such as heart disease and diabetes. Your marriage may be over, Read more [...]

“The Ungrateful Bitch and The Fat Rat Bastard”

    The ungrateful bitch And the fat rat bastard Got together for a while   Their marriage was a disaster Even worse when they brought in a child All they had snowballed downhill faster More of a curse than a blessing stockpiled   Delight could have changed a rat bastard If that ungrateful bitch just smiled Vile, he sought to re-cast her Out to sea with the witches exiled Riled, she fought the fat bastard Corrupt now they both were beguiled Enticing a devil to master…   …A Read more [...]

Change is NOT Allowed – Enjoy Dating

    Be yourself and don’t be with someone that you want to “change!” Unfortunately, many believe they ought to concentrate on the good aspects of your potential partner and overlook the tiny problems which are not compatible. Many take this a step further and do not communicate to the new partner issues that they're feeling. The notion of picking your battles is definitely an important part of the way you approach conflict in marriage because there will almost always be some Read more [...]

Significant Dates Change Color

    After a divorce, previously significant dates change color and feel a little strange, mostly because you’re not sure how you are supposed to feel about them. That date stays on the calendar and comes around every year! The birthday of your ex is a good example. What do you do? Send a card, don’t send a card; to be honest, that’s an easy one to deal with by comparison to your wedding anniversary. Whether you spent a year together or three decades or more, that date signifies the Read more [...]

If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived

  I have spent years counseling and watching the incredible struggle people find themselves in as the unexpected hits them in the form of a divorce. The loss of the dream they had when they committed to marrying is beyond words, yet very real. There is a knee- jerk reaction of going into denial and blame which includes them and yourself. Yet none of this will change what is going on. With time you will see If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived!!   The breakdown of a Read more [...]

Silver Separation is on the Rise

    Splitting up in later years, or silver separation as it is more commonly known, seems to be a trend on the rise. Perhaps there’s a wave of modern, more self-assured and assertive souls who have realized their life does not have to roll to the bitter end, suffering in a bitter marriage. People who were super-busy ex-execs are often plunged into great periods with nothing to do, but collect their pension and spend it with their spouses. The trouble is, many realize they barely Read more [...]

Answers to my Question “What is a Soul Mate?”

  “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and make you look deep inside.”     Your life is a puzzle and a soul mate is the piece to the puzzle that make Read more [...]

Do We Embrace the Throw Away Attitude in Our Marriages?

            In the wake of a very high profile celebrity divorce case here in the UK, this morning I was asked to speak on a handful of mid-morning BBC radio stations on their case and the general topic of divorce and domestic abuse. I was asked several times whether people threw the towel in on their marriages quicker than had happened in the past. Prior to my research on the subject, I would have said that as a society (Western world anyway) we have embraced Read more [...]

A Success Story: – Infidelity – I Didn’t Let His Affair Destroy Me

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.” ― Katherine Owen, Not To Us About two years ago, I thought my life was falling apart. After the death of one of my parents, I found out my husband was having an affair and he walked out on my son and me at the weakest moment in my life. I sat in my house with my son who was a toddler, and didn’t understand what I did to deserve to lose my father and the Read more [...]

Civil Partnership

  Even though same sex ‘marriages’ are not recognized in the UK - yet - civil partnerships can fall foul to the same fate as heterosexual marriages; failure. If you are a in a civil partnership, you do have the same entitlement when it comes to property rights, pension benefits and inheritance tax exemptions and if you have children, you can obtain parental responsibility for your partner’s children. In much the same way as a marriage, the process for the legal dissolution of your Read more [...]