If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived

  I have spent years counseling and watching the incredible struggle people find themselves in as the unexpected hits them in the form of a divorce. The loss of the dream they had when they committed to marrying is beyond words, yet very real. There is a knee- jerk reaction of going into denial and blame which includes them and yourself. Yet none of this will change what is going on. With time you will see If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived!!   The breakdown of a Read more [...]

Silver Separation is on the Rise

    Splitting up in later years, or silver separation as it is more commonly known, seems to be a trend on the rise. Perhaps there’s a wave of modern, more self-assured and assertive souls who have realized their life does not have to roll to the bitter end, suffering in a bitter marriage. People who were super-busy ex-execs are often plunged into great periods with nothing to do, but collect their pension and spend it with their spouses. The trouble is, many realize they barely Read more [...]

Answers to my Question “What is a Soul Mate?”

  “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and make you look deep inside.”     Your life is a puzzle and a soul mate is the piece to the puzzle that make Read more [...]

Do We Embrace the Throw Away Attitude in Our Marriages?

            In the wake of a very high profile celebrity divorce case here in the UK, this morning I was asked to speak on a handful of mid-morning BBC radio stations on their case and the general topic of divorce and domestic abuse. I was asked several times whether people threw the towel in on their marriages quicker than had happened in the past. Prior to my research on the subject, I would have said that as a society (Western world anyway) we have embraced Read more [...]

A Success Story: – Infidelity – I Didn’t Let His Affair Destroy Me

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.” ― Katherine Owen, Not To Us About two years ago, I thought my life was falling apart. After the death of one of my parents, I found out my husband was having an affair and he walked out on my son and me at the weakest moment in my life. I sat in my house with my son who was a toddler, and didn’t understand what I did to deserve to lose my father and the Read more [...]

Civil Partnership

  Even though same sex ‘marriages’ are not recognized in the UK - yet - civil partnerships can fall foul to the same fate as heterosexual marriages; failure. If you are a in a civil partnership, you do have the same entitlement when it comes to property rights, pension benefits and inheritance tax exemptions and if you have children, you can obtain parental responsibility for your partner’s children. In much the same way as a marriage, the process for the legal dissolution of your Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]

“The Pre-Nup”

    “Do you love me?” He asked “If you do will you sign a pre-nup?  Verifying before knot tying  Our accumulated stuff  Remains our sole property, should we  Commit adultery when there’s a passionate lull  End it because of irreconcilable  Differences…    …Or if our marriage is annulled”   “Do you love me?” She sighed “If so will you sign the pre-nup I supplied?  Validating that after consummating  Our lives will be one, but we will Read more [...]

A Mentor… is the Fastest Way to Get Extraordinary Results

  Are you a single again after 5, 10, 20 or 30 years of marriage? YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am with you every step of the way!  A Mentor... is the Fastest Way to Get Extraordinary Results     Are any of the following concerns keeping you up at night? - How do I communicate or deal with my ex when it comes to our children? - Will I always feel this lonely? - I can't seem to get out of my own way or move my life forward. Help! - What do I really want to do with my life? What's my Read more [...]