YOU WANT ME TO DRIVE WHAT???! With a Yours, Mine, and Ours Family

      I have a stepdaughter, two children from my previous marriage, and a 21 month old with my husband.  Four was the perfect number and we were all done having children. We had the great yours, mine, and ours family. I started feeling a little under the weather and could not shake it.  This had to be because I’m so busy at work, taking care of all the children, animals, and trying to keep the house picked up, a social life, and starting a new business.   This horrible sick Read more [...]

Be Prepared for your Initial Meetings

    Be prepared for your initial meetings with your solicitor / lawyer, you will be expected to provide them with a diverse array of information. It will help them and save you time and money if you prepare your responses efficiently in advance of any meetings. Your initial meeting should certainly include as much of the following as is possible. Clear and concise reasons why you want a divorce including information on any domestic abuse (emotional, mental, financial, sexual and physical), Read more [...]

Timetabling a Divorce is Tricky

    Chartered psychologist Felix Economakis famously said “The end of a relationship has a number of stages, similar to those of grief, namely denial, anger, bargaining, depression then acceptance.”  Timetabling a divorce is tricky why do so many try to do it? I might contend the order of a couple of them, but essentially I’d say he was right on the money. I would also add how lovely it would be if you could add ‘relief’ to the end of the list; oh, if only life were that Read more [...]

Life is a Puzzle and My Ex was not my Soul Mate

  Forrest Gump said “life is like a box of chocolates” but I prefer to agree with SQuire Rushnell that life is like a big jigsaw puzzle. All the pieces have their place, and every single one is important in our life for some reason. I am one piece in the puzzle; there are pieces that connect to mine, one of which is a soul mate. As with any puzzle when you have the correct piece they fall in place very quickly, and there is no need to try to make them fit.   The puzzle is God’s Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Affairs, Control Issues and More”

    Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Affairs, Control Issues and More” Originally aired August 22, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Single Again! Now What? returns with our 29th episode. Joanie had a business assignment from her “real” work, so Lesley and Steve are handling court on a variety of subjects. Sleep deprived Lesley, sucks it up and puts a smile on her face for our loyal audiences and discusses Read more [...]

Dragging A Drunk Husband Home

      by Gint Aras     When married couples make scenes in public, the rest of us are left pondering.     Last weekend I was seated in the patio of a Vilnius café with some friends. It was rather early on a pleasant evening, not yet eight o’clock. This café is frequented by a large variety of people, young and old, locals and tourists, some well dressed, others unbathed bohemians. You can eat a good, modestly priced dinner there, or you can order a Read more [...]

Moving On From Divorce

  The  moment has  happened: you and your spouse are divorced. It can be easy to ask yourself "what did I do wrong", but that kind of thinking hinders the process of coping with divorce depression. This time in your life is one of the most stressful events to ever occur in anyone's life, and there's no need to add to it with self-doubt and blaming. Without moving on from divorce, you can suffer from chronic health problems, such as heart disease and diabetes. Your marriage may be over, Read more [...]

“The Ungrateful Bitch and The Fat Rat Bastard”

    The ungrateful bitch And the fat rat bastard Got together for a while   Their marriage was a disaster Even worse when they brought in a child All they had snowballed downhill faster More of a curse than a blessing stockpiled   Delight could have changed a rat bastard If that ungrateful bitch just smiled Vile, he sought to re-cast her Out to sea with the witches exiled Riled, she fought the fat bastard Corrupt now they both were beguiled Enticing a devil to master…   …A Read more [...]

Change is NOT Allowed – Enjoy Dating

    Be yourself and don’t be with someone that you want to “change!” Unfortunately, many believe they ought to concentrate on the good aspects of your potential partner and overlook the tiny problems which are not compatible. Many take this a step further and do not communicate to the new partner issues that they're feeling. The notion of picking your battles is definitely an important part of the way you approach conflict in marriage because there will almost always be some Read more [...]

Significant Dates Change Color

    After a divorce, previously significant dates change color and feel a little strange, mostly because you’re not sure how you are supposed to feel about them. That date stays on the calendar and comes around every year! The birthday of your ex is a good example. What do you do? Send a card, don’t send a card; to be honest, that’s an easy one to deal with by comparison to your wedding anniversary. Whether you spent a year together or three decades or more, that date signifies the Read more [...]