Divorce Source Radio Episode “Affairs, Control Issues and More”

    Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Affairs, Control Issues and More” Originally aired August 22, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Single Again! Now What? returns with our 29th episode. Joanie had a business assignment from her “real” work, so Lesley and Steve are handling court on a variety of subjects. Sleep deprived Lesley, sucks it up and puts a smile on her face for our loyal audiences and discusses Read more [...]

Dragging A Drunk Husband Home

      by Gint Aras     When married couples make scenes in public, the rest of us are left pondering.     Last weekend I was seated in the patio of a Vilnius café with some friends. It was rather early on a pleasant evening, not yet eight o’clock. This café is frequented by a large variety of people, young and old, locals and tourists, some well dressed, others unbathed bohemians. You can eat a good, modestly priced dinner there, or you can order a Read more [...]

Moving On From Divorce

  The  moment has  happened: you and your spouse are divorced. It can be easy to ask yourself "what did I do wrong", but that kind of thinking hinders the process of coping with divorce depression. This time in your life is one of the most stressful events to ever occur in anyone's life, and there's no need to add to it with self-doubt and blaming. Without moving on from divorce, you can suffer from chronic health problems, such as heart disease and diabetes. Your marriage may be over, Read more [...]

“The Ungrateful Bitch and The Fat Rat Bastard”

    The ungrateful bitch And the fat rat bastard Got together for a while   Their marriage was a disaster Even worse when they brought in a child All they had snowballed downhill faster More of a curse than a blessing stockpiled   Delight could have changed a rat bastard If that ungrateful bitch just smiled Vile, he sought to re-cast her Out to sea with the witches exiled Riled, she fought the fat bastard Corrupt now they both were beguiled Enticing a devil to master…   …A Read more [...]

Change is NOT Allowed – Enjoy Dating

    Be yourself and don’t be with someone that you want to “change!” Unfortunately, many believe they ought to concentrate on the good aspects of your potential partner and overlook the tiny problems which are not compatible. Many take this a step further and do not communicate to the new partner issues that they're feeling. The notion of picking your battles is definitely an important part of the way you approach conflict in marriage because there will almost always be some Read more [...]

Significant Dates Change Color

    After a divorce, previously significant dates change color and feel a little strange, mostly because you’re not sure how you are supposed to feel about them. That date stays on the calendar and comes around every year! The birthday of your ex is a good example. What do you do? Send a card, don’t send a card; to be honest, that’s an easy one to deal with by comparison to your wedding anniversary. Whether you spent a year together or three decades or more, that date signifies the Read more [...]

If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived

  I have spent years counseling and watching the incredible struggle people find themselves in as the unexpected hits them in the form of a divorce. The loss of the dream they had when they committed to marrying is beyond words, yet very real. There is a knee- jerk reaction of going into denial and blame which includes them and yourself. Yet none of this will change what is going on. With time you will see If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived!!   The breakdown of a Read more [...]

Silver Separation is on the Rise

    Splitting up in later years, or silver separation as it is more commonly known, seems to be a trend on the rise. Perhaps there’s a wave of modern, more self-assured and assertive souls who have realized their life does not have to roll to the bitter end, suffering in a bitter marriage. People who were super-busy ex-execs are often plunged into great periods with nothing to do, but collect their pension and spend it with their spouses. The trouble is, many realize they barely Read more [...]

Answers to my Question “What is a Soul Mate?”

  “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and make you look deep inside.”     Your life is a puzzle and a soul mate is the piece to the puzzle that make Read more [...]

Do We Embrace the Throw Away Attitude in Our Marriages?

            In the wake of a very high profile celebrity divorce case here in the UK, this morning I was asked to speak on a handful of mid-morning BBC radio stations on their case and the general topic of divorce and domestic abuse. I was asked several times whether people threw the towel in on their marriages quicker than had happened in the past. Prior to my research on the subject, I would have said that as a society (Western world anyway) we have embraced Read more [...]