Assessing Emotional Maturity By, Justin Nutt, LMSW

    “Maturity of mind is the capacity to endure uncertainty.” - John Finley All too often emotional maturity is viewed as a given attribute that a person achieves based on their chronological age. But the truth is that young or old, 6 or 60, isn’t what defines the emotional maturity of a person. The maturity of a person isn’t something that magically is bestowed upon a person when they enter puberty, graduate high school, or turn 21, it is something that comes from within and Read more [...]

The King of the Mountain

    “Only mediocrity is safe. Therefore, be the best, and get prepared to be attacked.” ~Paulo Coelho   Despair permeated his teenage body, and his spirit. I could feel and smell his dejection as we sat inches apart in the front seat of The Red Scorpion after driving home from his Scout meeting that night. I partially understood the abyss he was teetering on, but I doubted the ability of any words of mine to relieve him. I just hoped that he would eventually understand Read more [...]

Moving Forward

  Moving forward is a process in life that many people loathe because moving forward is a time that requires one to make changes.  Being able to move forward in life is a true test of a person's maturity level, and a true test of the confidence that they have within themselves.  In order to succeed in the accomplishment of the dreams and goals that we have in our hearts we must be able to not only look forward, but also have the capacity to move forward as well.  We must resist looking Read more [...]

How to Help Kids Cope with Divorce

    A divorce is not only stressful for the parents but also for the kids involved. Children are bound to feel confusing and sad, and if it’s a bitter divorce then it becomes even more stressful for the kids to deal with it. Since, they do not have the emotional maturity to understand the gravity of the situation, there is a possibility that they might even get scarred for life. Therefore, as responsible parents it is your duty to make your divorce less painful especially if there Read more [...]

Children During a Divorce Feel Angst, Guilt or Straightforward Pain

  As kind and thoughtful as you hope to be towards your children during a divorce, it is next to impossible not to cause them to feel a slice of angst, guilt or straightforward pain. Their anguish doesn't disappear as soon as the divorce is over either, there is an adjustment period to get through and that can be as long as the proverbial length of string. If you try to justify your actions towards your ex to them, it can have a completely negative effect. Their age and maturity has nothing Read more [...]

Run From the Always Right Person

      “Get the facts first. You can distort them later.” -  Mark Twain   The last man I dated told me the first night I meet him that he was always right, no ifs, butts, or maybes. I thought he was joking, he even laughed when he said it. Well oh my, he really was serious. Come to think of it my ex-husband would also say he was always right. Maybe there is a trend here I need to learn from. With both men, if we ever disagreed they would push their point even if they Read more [...]