Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

S.O.S. Chili – Failproof Spring Cleaning in Less Than 20 Minutes!

  By Gretchen Schiller “This chili is fantastic!” The Trader Joe’s employee eagerly agrees and gets his spiel underway, “And it’s low-fat, cheap and has lots of protein!” He had me at low-fat. The six cans of chili for only $5 dollars didn’t hurt his pitch either. I enthusiastically pile six cans into my cart. Well, stamp “SUCKER!” on my forehead and call it a day. Can’t wait to get home and enjoy my new favorite Turkey Chili for dinner! An hour later. Dinnertime. Huh. Read more [...]

Online Dating Mission : FAIL

      by Gretchen Schiller   Did someone sign me up for the FBI and forget to tell me? Worse, forget to give me one of those cool jackets? Because online dating is without a doubt a FBI manhunt. An endless, exhausting pursuit for the “Most Wanted” man: dangerously loyal, wickedly intelligent, and terrifyingly thoughtful with a bold appearance that is a proven threat to all single women. I’m a diligent special agent. I adhere to the manhunt dress code. Shower, put Read more [...]

Post Divorce Christmas Part 5 – Creating Family Traditions after Divorce

  The holiday season is a wonderful time for all the families. The time from Thanksgiving through New Year’s Day is especially important for families as they signify a time of love and togetherness. And all of a sudden, with a pound of the gavel, the term “holidays” mean entirely something else. Not only is it very different from the usual holiday celebration, the first time spending holidays alone could be aptly described in just one word “clueless”. If you don’t have children, Read more [...]

Lighter Side Quotes #8

Lighter Side Quotes “When someone walks away from you, it’s not the end of your story.  It’s the end of their part in your story.” - Stayhappy.blogspot.c   “If stress burned calories, I’d be a supermodel.” – wititudes.c    “Any person can say they love you.  Only a few will actually prove it.” - AwesomeQuotes4u  "Sometimes people who are thousands of miles away can make you feel better than people who are right next to you." - Unknown "When a girl says she’ll be Read more [...]

Small Packages

  By Gretchen Schiller “I tired, Mommy.” Three-year-old Ana Lu leaned into me and wrapped her arms around my leg. “I know, Sweetie, me too,” I replied. This was the sixth apartment we’d looked at today. Ana Lu had hit her limit two apartments ago. I hit mine six apartments ago. The landlord jostled the key and opened the door. Ana Lu froze. I knew what she was thinking. Ick. I agreed. Ick. I gently nudged Ana Lu through the threshold of the door. We had to do the obligatory walk Read more [...]

Who’s on first – Naughty or Nice? Five ways to make it easier to choose “Nice.”

    By Gretchen Schiller Abbott and Costello: Who’s on first. What’s on second. I don’t know is on third. Why’s in left field. Tomorrow’s the pitcher. Today’s the catcher. Naturally, Who’s on first. I don’t give a damn’s the shortstop. Co-parenting Team: Who’s at mom’s home? Who’s at dad’s home? What’s the plan? I don’t know if we will all be together Christmas day. Why’s this so complicated? Tomorrow will be easier. (Wel-l-l-l. Let’s make that next Read more [...]

Reach Out – “Does It Get Any Better With Time?”

    Reach Out “Does It Get Any Better With Time?”   Member Requesting Input "I only started divorce proceedings against my abusive husband yesterday, I had to go through everything, and does the pain of going through the process get easier?"   Member Response 1 Way to go 🙂 It takes courage and strength to make a big life change. It is ok to get some professional help as you go thru. I am in counseling now to help me with the stress, depression, and all of the other Read more [...]