Yoga Pants and Unexamined Assumptions

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project   Noah Brand responds to The Frisky’s criticism of a Good Men Project article.     Over at The Frisky, Amelia McDonell-Parry has some sharp criticism of Nathan Graziano’s piece here at the Good Men Project, “Yoga Pants Nation“. Ms. McDonnell-Parry writes: "Newsflash Nathan Graziano: Not everything women do is done with men in mind. Just because you find someone sexy, doesn’t mean she’s being sexy for Read more [...]

Why Men (or Women) Don’t Approach You

    This list was created for many common mistakes people make at clubs. Unless you work there, being at a club or bar, you will find only about 5% of the time a person could approach you. The other 95% is everywhere else in your life. Try to incorporate these ideas into your everyday life, you will be surprised how many new people you meet. Surrounded by people of your same sex: This is the most common reason I have heard from men as to why they don’t approach women in bars or clubs. Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

The Cross Dresser

    While checking my online dating site, I received a wink and an email. I clicked to see the profile of the gentleman. The photo was of what looked like an attractive female. I am a very curious person and just had to see what was going on. The first thing I read was that this gentleman was a cross dresser… Reading the rest of his profile, he seemed to be a very nice Christian man that just happens to like to wear women’s clothes. I emailed him to say thank you for the wink and Read more [...]

Rejection, part two

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project As pointed out in the comments to part one, my first post about the rejections inherent in the men-approach-women-wait model was focused entirely on how bad it hurts for men to suffer the inevitable multiple rejections inherent in that model. That’s true, and it’s part of why it was titled “part one”. A word to my fellow men: fellas, as we get together over our cigars and brandy in the billiard room, let us take a moment away Read more [...]

The Crazy Psychiatrist

        Barbie called and told me she decided it was time I started dating, and she had found this fabulous man for me. He is a very well known, published and respected psychiatrist. He also owns several facilities in multiple states. She asked me if she could give him my number, and I said sure, what do I have to lose? He called me, and we ended up talking on the phone for a couple weeks and I must admit, he seemed pleasant, so I decided to join him for lunch. Every time Read more [...]

T’s Top 10 SAFETY TIPS for Online Dating

The Internet is still pretty safe, even for seniors, according to WiredSafety.org. People are emailing, private messaging, chatting with one another, and making cyber-dates. Online dating will be a fun and fulfilling if you take a few precautions to ensure your safety and success. ■ Do Not Give Out Personal Information - Use a third party email address instead of one with your own and do not link it to any of your accounts. For example, set up a Google account without any of your personal information Read more [...]

Five Important Things Women Don’t Know About Men

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project It’s true, men are complicated and confusing. Noah Brand clears up five common misconceptions. The title is, to be fair, an overgeneralization. These things are not universally true of all men, and there definitely are women out there who know and understand some or all of them. By and large, though, these are five areas where communication between the two most popular genders tends to break down on grounds of incomprehension. Women, Read more [...]

Are They Lying To Me?

    If you have someone you are dating, or maybe you are falling in love, or maybe would like to take it to the next level. Is it hard to trust them? Trust is a very difficult thing especially if you have even been mistreated in any way or cheated on or lied to before. Some people are compulsive liars. They cannot help but try to make anything and everything they do seem amazing and very worthy of your praise. I will be the first person to say that trust needs to be earned by everyone Read more [...]

Online Dating Mission : FAIL

      by Gretchen Schiller   Did someone sign me up for the FBI and forget to tell me? Worse, forget to give me one of those cool jackets? Because online dating is without a doubt a FBI manhunt. An endless, exhausting pursuit for the “Most Wanted” man: dangerously loyal, wickedly intelligent, and terrifyingly thoughtful with a bold appearance that is a proven threat to all single women. I’m a diligent special agent. I adhere to the manhunt dress code. Shower, put Read more [...]