My Date With The Cable Lady

    The cable company made an appointment for that week to send a representative out to my condo to sign the papers for cable service. So I was not surprised when the security intercom rang and the voice announced itself as being from the cable company. What did surprise me was the very feminine sound of that voice. We sat at my glass kitchen table. She was going through the cable channel options. I was thinking about what an interesting situation this was. She was good looking and well Read more [...]

Date SAFE Not Sorry! The Dangerous Game of Dating Someone You Don’t Know

    Here are the statistics of online dating: 1. In the past decade rate of growth on online dating sites is 154% 2. Out of the total above 45 years of age, 40% are single. 3. According to recent surveys 280,000 get married each year. 4. In America, 58% of women and 48% percent of men use online dating (Information gathered at http://www.buzzle.com/articles/online-dating-statistics.html) I am a Private Investigator, and I deal with these situations every day. Here is some information Read more [...]

Communication

        Many times when couples are having problems in a relationship, unfortunately communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding or creating a new type of relationships, just as communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind.     Healing in the relationship cannot Read more [...]

Online Dating Mission : FAIL

      by Gretchen Schiller   Did someone sign me up for the FBI and forget to tell me? Worse, forget to give me one of those cool jackets? Because online dating is without a doubt a FBI manhunt. An endless, exhausting pursuit for the “Most Wanted” man: dangerously loyal, wickedly intelligent, and terrifyingly thoughtful with a bold appearance that is a proven threat to all single women. I’m a diligent special agent. I adhere to the manhunt dress code. Shower, put Read more [...]

Dating is a Time to Have Fun and Meet New People!

    Dating is a time to have fun and meet new people. It should not be viewed as the express lane to your next relationship or marriage. Each date should be viewed as another opportunity to find out more about what you do and do not want in your new life. Accept as many dates as you want but remember it’s just a date. This date is just one evening of your life, and if you don’t hit it off or you do not go out with them again, it is okay. There is always tomorrow, and good things Read more [...]

Phil Met Foxy on a Free Online Dating Site

  Phil is normally a very dot the I’s, cross the T’s type of person. I don't know if it is because of his busy schedule or what, but for some reason he didn't do his due diligence involving his online dating. When Phil met Foxy on a free online dating site, like others do she did not have a photo, No photo is always a huge red flag to me, and I did not hesitate to tell Phil just what I thought. People that do not have a photo many times are trying to hide something and that can be a problem. Read more [...]

Yoga Pants and Unexamined Assumptions

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project   Noah Brand responds to The Frisky’s criticism of a Good Men Project article.     Over at The Frisky, Amelia McDonell-Parry has some sharp criticism of Nathan Graziano’s piece here at the Good Men Project, “Yoga Pants Nation“. Ms. McDonnell-Parry writes: "Newsflash Nathan Graziano: Not everything women do is done with men in mind. Just because you find someone sexy, doesn’t mean she’s being sexy for Read more [...]

Why Men (or Women) Don’t Approach You

    This list was created for many common mistakes people make at clubs. Unless you work there, being at a club or bar, you will find only about 5% of the time a person could approach you. The other 95% is everywhere else in your life. Try to incorporate these ideas into your everyday life, you will be surprised how many new people you meet. Surrounded by people of your same sex: This is the most common reason I have heard from men as to why they don’t approach women in bars or clubs. Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

The Cross Dresser

    While checking my online dating site, I received a wink and an email. I clicked to see the profile of the gentleman. The photo was of what looked like an attractive female. I am a very curious person and just had to see what was going on. The first thing I read was that this gentleman was a cross dresser… Reading the rest of his profile, he seemed to be a very nice Christian man that just happens to like to wear women’s clothes. I emailed him to say thank you for the wink and Read more [...]