Lake Party

          The Fourth of July was coming, and a friend from high school called to ask if I’d like to go on a date with him. A mutual high school friend was having a potluck dinner at his house on the lake. Our friend who was having the party was someone we had not seen since high school, and that was over twenty years ago. We made our dish to pass and packed up our swimsuits just in case there might be a dip in the lake on this hot summer day. My date was told there Read more [...]

“Ripe for the Picking?”

      With the loss of any long-term relationship, there will be things you begin to miss. Things like, a nice strong or loving hug from someone of the opposite sex, a smile when they see you walking up, and the list goes on and on.  Fortunately right after my divorce, a good friend came up and said “guard yourself against becoming ripe for the picking.” I had no idea what he meant, so he explained there are people out there that will see that you are vulnerable and try to Read more [...]

Date SAFE Not Sorry! The Dangerous Game of Dating Someone You Don’t Know

    Here are the statistics of online dating: 1. In the past decade rate of growth on online dating sites is 154% 2. Out of the total above 45 years of age, 40% are single. 3. According to recent surveys 280,000 get married each year. 4. In America, 58% of women and 48% percent of men use online dating (Information gathered at http://www.buzzle.com/articles/online-dating-statistics.html) I am a Private Investigator, and I deal with these situations every day. Here is some information Read more [...]

Communication

        Many times when couples are having problems in a relationship, unfortunately communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding or creating a new type of relationships, just as communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind.     Healing in the relationship cannot Read more [...]

Dating is a Time to Have Fun and Meet New People!

    Dating is a time to have fun and meet new people. It should not be viewed as the express lane to your next relationship or marriage. Each date should be viewed as another opportunity to find out more about what you do and do not want in your new life. Accept as many dates as you want but remember it’s just a date. This date is just one evening of your life, and if you don’t hit it off or you do not go out with them again, it is okay. There is always tomorrow, and good things Read more [...]

Yoga Pants and Unexamined Assumptions

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project   Noah Brand responds to The Frisky’s criticism of a Good Men Project article.     Over at The Frisky, Amelia McDonell-Parry has some sharp criticism of Nathan Graziano’s piece here at the Good Men Project, “Yoga Pants Nation“. Ms. McDonnell-Parry writes: "Newsflash Nathan Graziano: Not everything women do is done with men in mind. Just because you find someone sexy, doesn’t mean she’s being sexy for Read more [...]

Why Men (or Women) Don’t Approach You

    This list was created for many common mistakes people make at clubs. Unless you work there, being at a club or bar, you will find only about 5% of the time a person could approach you. The other 95% is everywhere else in your life. Try to incorporate these ideas into your everyday life, you will be surprised how many new people you meet. Surrounded by people of your same sex: This is the most common reason I have heard from men as to why they don’t approach women in bars or clubs. Read more [...]

The Cross Dresser

    While checking my online dating site, I received a wink and an email. I clicked to see the profile of the gentleman. The photo was of what looked like an attractive female. I am a very curious person and just had to see what was going on. The first thing I read was that this gentleman was a cross dresser… Reading the rest of his profile, he seemed to be a very nice Christian man that just happens to like to wear women’s clothes. I emailed him to say thank you for the wink and Read more [...]

Rejection, part two

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project As pointed out in the comments to part one, my first post about the rejections inherent in the men-approach-women-wait model was focused entirely on how bad it hurts for men to suffer the inevitable multiple rejections inherent in that model. That’s true, and it’s part of why it was titled “part one”. A word to my fellow men: fellas, as we get together over our cigars and brandy in the billiard room, let us take a moment away Read more [...]

The Crazy Psychiatrist

        Barbie called and told me she decided it was time I started dating, and she had found this fabulous man for me. He is a very well known, published and respected psychiatrist. He also owns several facilities in multiple states. She asked me if she could give him my number, and I said sure, what do I have to lose? He called me, and we ended up talking on the phone for a couple weeks and I must admit, he seemed pleasant, so I decided to join him for lunch. Every time Read more [...]