A Success Story: – Infidelity – I Didn’t Let His Affair Destroy Me

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.” ― Katherine Owen, Not To Us About two years ago, I thought my life was falling apart. After the death of one of my parents, I found out my husband was having an affair and he walked out on my son and me at the weakest moment in my life. I sat in my house with my son who was a toddler, and didn’t understand what I did to deserve to lose my father and the Read more [...]

Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Baby Brings Dad Unusual Attention from Beautiful Women

Photo by Gint Aras Originally appeared at The Good Men Project on  October  26, 2012 Writer Gint Aras probes the odd phenomenon  of babies attracting babes…to his wife’s amusement Prior to having Kira, my first child, I used to imagine what attention a baby  might attract in public. I was mostly curious but also mildly anxious. I live in Oak Park, Illinois, a suburb boasting good schools, beautiful parks  and playgrounds, and a diverse culture of bookworms and patrons of the arts,  Read more [...]

Economic Reality of Divorce

  How does the income that ran one house now run two? It does not and that is a fact that must be accepted. Life after divorce is financially demanding. Most research shows that a person needs more than a 30% increase in their income on average to maintain the same standard of living. About one in five women fall into poverty, and three of four parents do not receive child support in full on a regular basis. A man’s standard of living goes down on average 10% to 40%. Here are two things that Read more [...]

Try this Today: Secret Wink

By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Secret Wink. A secret sign between you and your munchkin. Over a year ago… “Ya know, Sweetie, I was thinkin’ about it Read more [...]

Kids Need Both Parents – Dads and Moms of Michigan

              Podcast: Play in new window | Download Originally aired April 6, 2012               Image courtesy of koratmember / FreeDigitalPhotos.net     Divorce Source Radio is broadcasting from The Divorce Expo 2012. Their guests are John Langlois and Brian Jones of Dads and Moms of Michigan (DMM). This non-profit organization provides information, education, and knowledge to all Michigan parents Read more [...]

Parents Without Partners

    The wife of a friend from work called one day to say she had a bunch of girlfriends that had a loose organization called “Parents Without Partners.” Mainly women, but they tried to recruit men, too. People who have no mate, usually through divorce, sometimes through death. They get together every couple of weeks. Would I like to come? Two evenings later, a (male) friend from work and I walked into the Southport Brewery, an upscale/yuppie restaurant. The girls were already Read more [...]

Kids and Money

      Most children think parents have an endless supply of money. When my oldest was around seven, I told him I didn't have money for the toy he wanted he looked at me totally confused and said "but you have all those checks." I realized it's more difficult for children to understand the value of money than it was when I was a child. We learned about money at school and at home. People used the real currency that we held in our hands not piece of paper we wrote the amount on Read more [...]

5 Tips That Will Help You with That First Date

    We all get a little intimidated on a first date. If you have been out of the dating world for a while, it is even harder to get back in the swing of things. Here are some tips I used for my first dates. 1. Keep your expectations realistic: We all have flaws and you and your date are no exceptions. Remember NO checklists but do have your deal breakers. Ask yourself these three questions first: Do I like them? Are they easy to talk to, and you feel comfortable? Is there any attraction? Read more [...]

Okay, Ladies, Woman Up…Father’s Day is Coming!

  By Gretchen Schiller Last year on Father’s Day it had been a year since Charles and my divorce. It took me awhile to come up with a gift idea that Ana Lu could make for him. This is perfect for single moms on a budget who are trying to think of a thoughtful gift. Really, for all of us busy moms and consequently last minute shoppers. It has sat on the shelf in his house ever since. Only 15 bucks, easy peasy and he loves it…     • Go the the store and buy a window Read more [...]