Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Watch Your Spending

  Don’t whack your credit card with a huge spend as you indulge consumer-based relief to alleviate your pain. Watch finances and your spending! It’ll probably because you have more stress than you have the ability to cope with.  The buzz you get from making the purchase will be short lived, and yes, you really do release excited endorphins when you buy stuff. It’s more likely that you’re seeking a few simple changes to your immediate surroundings. Why not visit the charity shops Read more [...]

Purchasing Habits Must Be Controled

  It is all too easy to slip back into the purchasing habits that you were used to, pre-divorce. If your ex was the major earner in your relationship and you aren’t receiving a great deal of financial support from them, you will have to set an urgent post-divorce budget to live by.   Credit and store cards will make temporarily uplifting but unnecessary purchases horribly accessible but you must remember, you will have to pick the bill up at some point; your ex may have been the Read more [...]

Civil Partnership

  Even though same sex ‘marriages’ are not recognized in the UK - yet - civil partnerships can fall foul to the same fate as heterosexual marriages; failure. If you are a in a civil partnership, you do have the same entitlement when it comes to property rights, pension benefits and inheritance tax exemptions and if you have children, you can obtain parental responsibility for your partner’s children. In much the same way as a marriage, the process for the legal dissolution of your Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Don’t Regret Anything

    History is what it is and it’s necessary to have a few chunks of it float under the bridge before you can begin to write the future. Regret is futile and will only leave you with a burgeoning pile of what ifs that you can never address. However, you can use bad events from the past to shape the way you deal with your future. By turning negativity onto its head and producing something positive, it gives your darkness a purpose. An example of this might be in training to be a counselor, Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #2

Inspirational Quotes  #2 You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. - C. S. Lewis  Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. - Helen Keller Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow." - Mary Anne Radmacher  How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. - Anne Frank “Some people think Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #10

Inspirational Quotes #10 “Oh my friend, it’s not what they take away from you that counts. It’s what you do with what you have left.” - Hubert Humphrey “Enjoy and best wishes for a positive outlook and positive action for your road ahead.” - Lesa "When you know your worth, no-one can make you feel worthless." - flickr.com A person who's not after God's heart should not be after yours ♥ “I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish he didn’t trust me so much.” Read more [...]

Assess the Responses

        I mentioned recently that the first meeting with your solicitor should be free if you've window shopped around and done your homework. Bear in mind, you also have an opportunity to lay out some of the details during the preliminary telephone call you have with them, as you assess the responses of the person you may decide to represent you in your divorce. Listen to their responses and trust your gut instinct; if they are overtly aggressive and appear rottweilerish Read more [...]

Divert Your Energies

    It’s a foregone conclusion when you think about it; a person you’ve spent a great deal of married years with, is likely to be able to retain the ability to press your buttons years after your divorce. They know precisely where your Achilles heel is, they know what provokes you and they know how to stir up a storm that enrages you into action. It’s like a spectator sport to them. Well, if your emotions are suffering at the idle hand of a vitriolic ex, why not put the fire Read more [...]

Recount Out Loud the Highlights of Your Relationship

  I was tapped on the shoulder by a wonderful old friend today who I’ve not seen in two years and we stood in the middle of Waitrose clucking like a pair of ducks catching up with each other’s news in digest.   I relayed my divorce news in bite-sized chunks and found myself bullet pointing that old relationship. It was enlightening - for me - and I want to direct this Tip of the Day to anyone on the lead up to leaving, or anyone who has been treated badly and is now in the devastatingly Read more [...]