Silver Separation is on the Rise

    Splitting up in later years, or silver separation as it is more commonly known, seems to be a trend on the rise. Perhaps there’s a wave of modern, more self-assured and assertive souls who have realized their life does not have to roll to the bitter end, suffering in a bitter marriage. People who were super-busy ex-execs are often plunged into great periods with nothing to do, but collect their pension and spend it with their spouses. The trouble is, many realize they barely Read more [...]

Do We Embrace the Throw Away Attitude in Our Marriages?

            In the wake of a very high profile celebrity divorce case here in the UK, this morning I was asked to speak on a handful of mid-morning BBC radio stations on their case and the general topic of divorce and domestic abuse. I was asked several times whether people threw the towel in on their marriages quicker than had happened in the past. Prior to my research on the subject, I would have said that as a society (Western world anyway) we have embraced Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – You Must Not Lay Blame for Their Actions on Your Shoulders

  We must take responsibility for our own actions and accept that we are not responsible for the behavior of others. Your ex walks their own path, just as you walk yours. You must not lay blame for their actions on your shoulders, even if you did leave them and, even if you didn't! Cut yourself some slack and understand this can be incredibly hard to do, particularly when they are behaving in a vile or out of character manner. We all have the power to curb negative responses to the actions Read more [...]

Finances and Divorce

    Every bureaucratic element of divorce has it’s sticky points, but I think working out a fair division of your joint finances is probably the worst, unless you have children that is, then it’s a whole new ball of wax. If you are in the midst of a relatively amicable separation / divorce and are planning to negotiate the financial agreement nicely, that’s amazing and all well and good. You won’t incur huge court costs or legal bills for solicitors who will be more than happy Read more [...]

Male Inspired Divorce Poetry will be Available Early 2014

  Male inspired divorce poetry will be available early 2014     All things being equal, the men's version of Poetry of Divorce should be available in the Spring of 2014.Poetry of Divorce is a collection of upbeat, stark, witty, gritty yet essentially encouraging poems, by Tracey West.Through her sharp and comedic pen, they outline everything from the uphill struggles, to the absolute adventures faced by many men, as they attempt to carve a coherent route through the most emotionally Read more [...]

Breaking a Few Eggs

    It’s almost impossible to make an omelet without breaking a few eggs and if you are just ending your relationship, you will almost certainly be feeling palpable trepidation for what has happened. If you believe you have did all you could to make things work and if you believe that you will be healthier, happier, calmer, safer or more, the other side of the relationship, then you have to trust your instinct and slowly and steadily, put one foot in front of the other and make it Read more [...]

Change Your Pattern

    We humans are creatures of habit and for some, our rituals are the things that shape our days. Take breakfast for example; we get up, use the bathroom, maybe get dressed, wake others up, we put the kettle on and so on and so forth. When it comes to the foods we eat and the beverages we consume, they also tend to flow along familiar lines. When we break up with our partners and continue to follow the same patterns we’ve always made, the space they used to inhabit in the breakfast Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Watch Your Spending

  Don’t whack your credit card with a huge spend as you indulge consumer-based relief to alleviate your pain. Watch finances and your spending! It’ll probably because you have more stress than you have the ability to cope with.  The buzz you get from making the purchase will be short lived, and yes, you really do release excited endorphins when you buy stuff. It’s more likely that you’re seeking a few simple changes to your immediate surroundings. Why not visit the charity shops Read more [...]

Purchasing Habits Must Be Controled

  It is all too easy to slip back into the purchasing habits that you were used to, pre-divorce. If your ex was the major earner in your relationship and you aren’t receiving a great deal of financial support from them, you will have to set an urgent post-divorce budget to live by.   Credit and store cards will make temporarily uplifting but unnecessary purchases horribly accessible but you must remember, you will have to pick the bill up at some point; your ex may have been the Read more [...]

Civil Partnership

  Even though same sex ‘marriages’ are not recognized in the UK - yet - civil partnerships can fall foul to the same fate as heterosexual marriages; failure. If you are a in a civil partnership, you do have the same entitlement when it comes to property rights, pension benefits and inheritance tax exemptions and if you have children, you can obtain parental responsibility for your partner’s children. In much the same way as a marriage, the process for the legal dissolution of your Read more [...]