The Internet, Your Ex and the Legal System

  Social media and various other mediums have now become a very acceptable form of evidence for court cases. Did you know that about 80% of attorneys use information from social networking sites as evidence in divorce cases and custody hearings? This area for fact finding has been growing at a tremendous rate for the past six years. Social media has made it much harder to keep information from your ex - they're able to find out everything you're doing. Even though, you think you have "hidden" Read more [...]

The Anatomy of An Affair – Part 3

        Podcast: Play in new window | Download In this, the 3rd of our series, The Anatomy of an Affair, we focus on two phases of recovery. David Feder believes firmly that moving “from discovery to recovery” means much more than merely moving on and allowing time to pass. David says, “if you do that you are leaving the quality of your recovery and your life up to the Gods”. He asks, are you sure that is what you want to do? In this segment, we begin by having Read more [...]

Cheating & It’s Impact

  Infidelity is one of the worst things that you can ever do to your partner – so why do so many actually commit such a crime? In our previous article we spoke about what infidelity actually is. Today, we want to concentrate on what the biggest reasons are for each gender. What are the most common excuses given for cheating? Also, what kind of impact can it have on a divorce proceeding and beyond? If you have previously been involved in cheating in the past, whether you were the one cheating Read more [...]

I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar? (I Need a Man!)

    by Gretchen Schiller   I am woman, hear me roar… “I NEED A MAN!” No shit, right? I was just as horrified as you were when that echoed through my mind. But it did. So here I am throwing it out there in case you Pretty Mamas have felt the same on occasion. In Helen Reddy’s infamous song, “I Am Woman,” we can all agree that the context of her lyrics preached the opposite; women do not need men.       Here’s the deal. I’m tired of the conviction, Read more [...]

Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Emotional & Sexual Building Blocks”

      Originally aired June 27, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman continues her “Building Blocks” series. Learning to reclaim passion and self esteem builds up emotional growth. Today we deal with Guilt Rejection, Grief and Anger and we consider whom it may be worse for, the leavor or the leavee? Juliana helps us know what everyone may be feeling.   For more on Juliana Neiman, visit: www.JulianaNeiman.com         We Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]