Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Emotional & Sexual Building Blocks”

      Originally aired June 27, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman continues her “Building Blocks” series. Learning to reclaim passion and self esteem builds up emotional growth. Today we deal with Guilt Rejection, Grief and Anger and we consider whom it may be worse for, the leavor or the leavee? Juliana helps us know what everyone may be feeling.   For more on Juliana Neiman, visit: www.JulianaNeiman.com         We Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]

Communication With Ease (even with your ex)!

  Have you ever asked yourself these questions concerning your ex, children, co-workers or even your boss? - Why did you do that? - What were you thinking? Trying to understand another person's behavior can be very stressful and frustrating.  The first step to help you deal with your frustration is to remember that everyone is unique. We all see the world from a different perspective. With that being said, would it be fair to say that if I understand you and you understand me, chances are Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #23

Inspirational Quotes “If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.” – Thinking out Loud "So many people fall in love with the wrong person, simply because the wrong person usually says all the “right things.” - Unknown "Tell me again how they cheated on you for the fifth time… that #*#**. How dare they make you come back to them every single time, only to do it again? The nerve….” - Funny  Breakup Ecard "Know this: You cheated on me; you cheated yourself out Read more [...]

INSTEAD OF WORRYING ABOUT FINDING SOMEONE NEW, FOCUS ON YOU!

When people find themselves single again, it can be a scary experience.  Often in the grips of change and loneliness, we find ourselves wondering about the “whens”, “wheres” and “hows” of finding someone new.  However, jumping right back into another relationship is not always beneficial to everyone involved, most importantly-yourself. Before getting involved in another relationship right away, we need to do what is best for us, which is to heal completely.  It is necessary to be Read more [...]

A Mentor… is the Fastest Way to Get Extraordinary Results

  Are you a single again after 5, 10, 20 or 30 years of marriage? YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am with you every step of the way!  A Mentor... is the Fastest Way to Get Extraordinary Results     Are any of the following concerns keeping you up at night? - How do I communicate or deal with my ex when it comes to our children? - Will I always feel this lonely? - I can't seem to get out of my own way or move my life forward. Help! - What do I really want to do with my life? What's my Read more [...]