Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Emotional & Sexual Building Blocks”

      Originally aired June 27, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman continues her “Building Blocks” series. Learning to reclaim passion and self esteem builds up emotional growth. Today we deal with Guilt Rejection, Grief and Anger and we consider whom it may be worse for, the leavor or the leavee? Juliana helps us know what everyone may be feeling.   For more on Juliana Neiman, visit: www.JulianaNeiman.com         We Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Watch Your Spending

  Don’t whack your credit card with a huge spend as you indulge consumer-based relief to alleviate your pain. Watch finances and your spending! It’ll probably because you have more stress than you have the ability to cope with.  The buzz you get from making the purchase will be short lived, and yes, you really do release excited endorphins when you buy stuff. It’s more likely that you’re seeking a few simple changes to your immediate surroundings. Why not visit the charity shops Read more [...]

Assessing Emotional Maturity By, Justin Nutt, LMSW

    “Maturity of mind is the capacity to endure uncertainty.” - John Finley All too often emotional maturity is viewed as a given attribute that a person achieves based on their chronological age. But the truth is that young or old, 6 or 60, isn’t what defines the emotional maturity of a person. The maturity of a person isn’t something that magically is bestowed upon a person when they enter puberty, graduate high school, or turn 21, it is something that comes from within and Read more [...]

Communication With Ease (even with your ex)!

  Have you ever asked yourself these questions concerning your ex, children, co-workers or even your boss? - Why did you do that? - What were you thinking? Trying to understand another person's behavior can be very stressful and frustrating.  The first step to help you deal with your frustration is to remember that everyone is unique. We all see the world from a different perspective. With that being said, would it be fair to say that if I understand you and you understand me, chances are Read more [...]

A Proper Giggle is Actually Very Good

  One of the most infectious things in the world is laughter and when you are getting divorced, it seems fits of it are too far and few between. Having a proper giggle is actually very good for you! It releases endorphins, the body’s own natural happy juice, it helps strengthen your immune system, and it quashes stress and more besides. So how do you go about inducing a bit when you are feeling down in the mouth? If you have the internet to hand, your choices are endless. Pull up a snippet Read more [...]

INSTEAD OF WORRYING ABOUT FINDING SOMEONE NEW, FOCUS ON YOU!

When people find themselves single again, it can be a scary experience.  Often in the grips of change and loneliness, we find ourselves wondering about the “whens”, “wheres” and “hows” of finding someone new.  However, jumping right back into another relationship is not always beneficial to everyone involved, most importantly-yourself. Before getting involved in another relationship right away, we need to do what is best for us, which is to heal completely.  It is necessary to be Read more [...]

Three Types of Tears

Crying is a very common pastime when you are clenched in the wiry grip of divorce but did you realise that there are three types of tears. Firstly there are basal, which lubricate the eye keeping it clear of dust. It’s a fluid not dissimilar to blood plasma. There are also reflex tears which come to wash out irritants like onion juice, they are also linked with coughing, vomiting and yawning. The third type are emotional tears, more often provoked by sadness and stress but also from being enormously Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Dealing with the Pain of Divorce”

      Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Dealing with the Pain of Divorce” Originally aired August 23, 2012   Podcast: Play in new window | Download         In this show of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we consider pain. Whether physical or through something like divorce, hurt is a power to be reckoned with. Dr. Banschick shares his own story of a recent back pain that left him incapable of dealing with things he used to take for granted, such as walking, Read more [...]

Enjoy Holidays after Divorce

  Enjoy Holidays after Divorce Spending holidays after divorce may not be the most pleasant thing – wrong! Holidays after getting divorced could be the most freeing and rejuvenating experience. There is no reason to worry. With the holiday season around the corner, here are a few tips that could prove to be more than helpful during this season. • If you are worried about being alone during the holidays, there is only one recourse – Keep busy! If you don’t have anyone to spend your Read more [...]