Many times when couples are having problems in a relationship, unfortunately communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding or creating a new type of relationships, just as communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind.
Healing in the relationship cannot start until you talk to each other. Make an agreement about what you will talk about (like the children) and set boundaries for your conversations. The agreement must also include that you will listen, really listen. That does not mean that you will agree with everything, which is perfectly fine. However, if you do not agree, do not yell, rather, the two of you need to calmly discuss the issue and together, work out a solution. This is hard work but within a very short time, you will both feel much better, individually and as a partners. You divorced for each other as mates but if you have children you are still partners as their parents.
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Originally posted 2012-12-01 16:31:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
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